People tell you about the nappies. They tell you about the feeding schedules. They tell you how fast it all goes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Not the physical stretch<\/strong>, but the emotional unraveling<\/strong>.
Not the sweetness of holding your baby, but the sudden silence when everyone else goes home.
Not how much you\u2019ll love them \u2014 but how easily you\u2019ll lose yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\nLet\u2019s Talk About the Parts That Don\u2019t Make It to Instagram:<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
That you might want help \u2014 but not want anyone else to hold your baby.
That you\u2019ll question if you\u2019re doing enough, even when you haven\u2019t sat down in 10 hours.
That your relationship might shift. That your body might ache in places your heart doesn\u2019t have words for yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Emotional Labor Is Real<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
But who\u2019s holding you<\/em>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You are not weak for feeling overwhelmed.
You are not broken for missing who you used to be.
You are not selfish for wanting space.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThis Is What I Wish I Knew\u2026<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re allowed to ask for what you need \u2014 even if you don\u2019t quite know how to say it yet.
You can be both fully in love with your child and<\/em> deeply in need of your own care.<\/p>\n\n\n\nYou\u2019re Still in There, Mama.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Your wild. Your voice. Your joy.
They might feel far away \u2014 but they\u2019re not gone.
They\u2019re just waiting for you to come back and claim them again, in a new way.<\/p>\n\n\n\nYou Don\u2019t Need a Plan. You Just Need a Place to Start.<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
this is your invitation to start reclaiming yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You are<\/em> the thing that gets to be tended to now.<\/p>\n\n\n\n